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“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:7

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What Does God Want from Me?

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.”   – James 1:2

Sometimes it is hard to believe that hurtful trials where we are beaten up by our closest friends could ultimately work in our favor, but if we are in Christ, they do (Romans 8:28).

I have seen a lot in this life. And I realize that you have endured much also.

Let’s have a cup of tea together and share lessons learned. If you don’t mind, I’ll go first….

First I need to repent and put my faith and trust in Jesus (Matthew 3:2; Romans 3:23, 6:23, 10:9). I should place no confidence in myself (Philippians 3:3). After all, I am just a sinner saved by grace. Apart from Jesus, I can do nothing (John 15:5). So I trust Him and place my confidence in His power, not my own. My goal is not prove to others that I am a finished work or to have a righteousness of my own. Instead, I trust in the righteousness of Jesus Christ and strive to follow His orders (1 John 5:2-4). The Lord knows all things (John 4)- past, present and future. He knows my sin even before I commit it and promises to forgive me if I ask (1 John 1:9). So trying to hide my sin from Jesus is useless. Although He knows I will sin again and has already provisioned for it, I should fight against sin with His power. When temptations come, I must remember that I belong to Jesus.

This tea is delightful. Did you put lemon in here, friend?

I grew up in a small village in the 1980s. When neighborhood kids offended one another, parents grouped us together and ensured that apologies were given as appropriate. I need to remember this. Although not easy, what a game changer to teach kids for later life. If I am not able to admit that I am wrong, how did I accept Jesus in the first place? The gospel is not the gospel without:  “For all have sinned…” (Romans 3:23).

So what does He want from me?

He wants me to love Him and to use His love coming through me to genuinely love other people (Romans 12:9; Matthew 22:36-40). He wants me to be obedient to Him (1 Samuel 15:22). He wants me to be “true blue”. He wants me to have a burden for the lost- where His heart is- and to take action (Matthew 28). I was also once lost and should never forget the pit from which I came. Many are still there. He values a genuine relationship with me so much that He died to purchase me with His own blood.

“He has told you, O man, what is good;  and what does the Lord require of you, but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?”   – Micah 6:8

It’s your turn, friend…

 

How to Follow Christ into Purification (Deliverance)

Please note: Below tips seek to help a person walk away from homosexual sin but do not claim to remove temptation.

We trust and obey the Lord. He performs the miracles (Jeremiah 29:11).

The following are tips, the Word of God applied to practical experience:

  1. Repent of Your Sins, and Give Your Life to the Lord Jesus Christ.
  2. Read the Word of God daily. Arm yourself (Ephesians 6:10-18).
    • Even if you feel you do not understand, still read. It renews the mind (Romans 12:2).
    • Prior to reading:  Find a safe, quiet space. Turn off your cell phone.
    • Decide the amount you are going to read, and stick to it.
    • Look for verses that can be applied practically to your life.
  3. Pray according to the will of God (1 John 5:14). Always be in a spirit of prayer (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
    • When you sin, pray for forgiveness (1 John 1:9). Then continue fighting. Come boldly to God by the blood of Jesus (Hebrews 4:16).
    • Pray for forgiveness of your sins daily (1 John 1:9).
    • Praise and thank Him for all things (Philippians 4:4, 6-9).
    • Pray for others.
    • Pray for yourself:
      • Guidance and direction. (Jeremiah 33:3; John 16:13).
      • Focus and clarity.
      • Wisdom (James 1:5).
      • Discernment (I Peter 5:8).
      • That the Lord will speak to you through His Word (John 16:13).
      • Pray for the Lord’s will for your life and in all things.
      • Pray for wisdom and discernment.
      • Pray as you feel moved by the Spirit (intercessory prayer; Romans 8:26-27).
  4. Worship the Lord in song (John 4:23).
  5. Find a Bible-believing church. Attend weekly (Hebrews 10:25). You will learn a lot about Christ by spending time in His house.
  6. Tithe (2 Corinthians 9:7Malachi 3:10). God promises to meet our needs (Philippians 4:19; Psalm 37:25). Tithing is an exercise in trust.
  7. Fast.
    • Choose a meal or meals you will skip each week, and stick to them. (Ex. Tuesday breakfast & lunch).
    • Set specific times you will intentionally read a bit of Scripture & pray during the fast. (for ex. 9am, 12pm, 3pm, 5pm)
    • Pray that His will be done for each of the needs the Lord has placed on your heart (1 John 5:14-15).
    • Pray when you feel hungry and as the Lord leads throughout the day.
    • When possible, praise the Lord in song.
    • Do not appear as though or indicate to anyone that you are fasting (Matthew 6:16-18). You are a special agent (2 Timothy 2:4).
  8. Have Faith (Hebrews 11:1, 6). Be confident that the Lord will finish the work He began in you (Philippians 1:6).
  9. Trust the Lord. Transfer your trust from yourself to Him. He is in charge now. Let go. Do not be anxious (Philippians 4:61 Peter 5:7).
  10. Do not be afraid (1 John 4:4). He who is in you (Jesus who lives in the heart of the believer) is greater than he who is in this world (Satan).
  11. Forgive those who have hurt you (Matthew 6:14-15; Mark 11:25-26).
  12. Make Habit Changes (Luke 12:48) to eliminate idols (1 John 2:16-17).
    • Live for Jesus. Follow Him (Matthew 10:39).
    • Replace secular music listening with Christian music.
    • Listen to praise and worship music often, especially when feeling anxious.
    • Stop having sexual contact of every kind (James 1:12; 1 Corinthians 6:18)- men, women & self.
    • Avoid philosophical discussions related to sex and sexuality (1 Timothy 6:3-5).
    • Take control of your thoughts (2 Corinthians 10:5; Philippians 4:7-8).
    • Change habits that draw you closer to temptation (James 4:7). Ex: If walking by the gym is a trigger, take another route.
    • Take a break from social media. Do not actively announce the break. Assess how media impacts your life.
    • Take a break from the secular TV/music/media (Ephesians 4:22-23). Assess how media impacts your life.
    • Respond to cravings for food and other substances by reading the Bible, prayer or praise.
    • During these very difficult changes, you should find yourself falling in love with Christ (Matthew 11:28-30).
  13. Find your identity in Christ.
    • The Lord has a purpose for your life.
    • He has given you gift to carry out His purpose for your life.
    • Identify your gifts (1 Corinthians 12, Ephesians 4, Romans 12).
    • Serving the Lord is the best way to identify your gifts.
  14. Serve the Lord. Pray about what the Lord wants you to do, and seek opportunities. Something humble is a good start (1 Peter 5:6).
  15. Develop your gift (Ex. teaching, music).
  16. Maintain a journal. Document what the Lord is doing in your life.
  17. Enjoy your relationship with Jesus Christ.
    • It’s a war. Do not allow distractions or temptations to diminish your relationship with Christ.
    • Crave fellowship with Him. Be inspired by His Word.
    • Be confident that Jesus loves you (Romans 8:1; Romans 8:37-39).
    • Find comfort, rest and solace in Him (Matthew 11:28-30).
    • Talk to Him frequently.
    • Set aside quality time just for you and Him.
  18. Prepare a testimony.
    • We overcome evil by the blood of Jesus and the word of our testimony (Revelation 12:11).
    • Prepare a written account of the great work the Lord has done in your life.
    • Through the process, be prepared to give a verbal account of the great work the Lord has done and is doing in your life.

The depth of your personal relationship with Christ will make or break your deliverance. Do not expect immediate results. Expect great trials. This is a journey, a process and a war. Praise the Lord for each step along this narrow, difficult path that leads to everlasting life.

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13)

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)

The Way of Salvation

1)  God created everything.

“In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth.” Genesis 1:1

“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Genesis 1:27

2)  We sinned. Every person on earth is a sinner. We all do bad things.

“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23

3)  We deserve death for our sins.  But we can have eternal life through Jesus.

“For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23

4)  God loves us so much that He sent His only Son Jesus Christ to earth to die on a cross (took the punishment that we deserve) to save us from our sins.

“For God so loved the world, that He gave his only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him. Whoever believes in Him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.John 3:16‭-‬18

5)  God raised Jesus from the dead. Jesus is Lord.

“that he worked in Christ when He raised Him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly places, far above all rule and authority and power and dominion, and above every name that is named, not only in this age but also in the one to come. And he put all things under His feet…”  Ephesians 1:20‭-‬22

“And Jesus came and said to them, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me.'” Matthew 28:18

6)  No one is a good person. We cannot earn heaven.

“…None is righteous, no, not one;” Romans 3:10

7)  We must repent of our sins and put our faith and trust in Jesus Christ. This is the ONLY way to be saved (go to heaven and have everlasting life).

“Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.” Matthew 3:2

“Jesus answered, ‘I am the way and the truth and the life.  No one comes to the Father, except through Me.’” John 14:6

8)  We must be spiritually “born again”.

“Jesus answered him, ‘Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.’” John 3:3
See full chapter (John 3) for detailed explanation.

9)  The Lord Jesus Christ is coming back in judgment. Those who have repented of their sins and given their lives to Him will spend eternity in heaven with Jesus. Sadly, those who have not repented of their sins and given their lives to Him will burn for eternity in hell.

“Then He will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from Me, you cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels.’” Matthew 25:41

10)  Following Jesus begins with one humble prayer.

“Because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.” Romans 10:9

If you are ready to give your life to Jesus and live for Him, please pray:

Dear Jesus,

I am a sinner.

I believe that You died on the cross to save me from my sins.

I believe that You rose again.

I believe that Jesus Is Lord.

Please forgive me from my sins.

And I will follow You for the rest of my life.

In Jesus’ name I pray,

Amen.

If you prayed that prayer and meant it, you have been saved by God’s grace (undeserved favor) through your faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus paid it all. You are justified by faith, not works.

“For it is by grace you have been saved through faith – and this is not from yourselves.  It is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9

Praise the Lord!


Now Follow Jesus every day:

1)  Get a Bible. Start reading it daily.

2)  Pray daily.

3)  Find a Bible believing church. Attend regularly.

Follow the Lord!

If you feel like you cannot believe in Jesus, read the Bible. “Faith comes by hearing the word of God.” (Romans 10:17)

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